Comments on: Family Explains Following Child’s Death in Car

By: Michael J.

Michael J. — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 03:21:57 +0000

Amber and Family,

Remember death’s sting is often softened as Christ bears the believers’ grief and comforts them through the Holy Spirit. Generally, the grieving process moves slowly from shock and numbness, through searching and yearning, to disorientation and depression, and finally to acceptance and an ability to enjoy life. While you are grieving, find great assurances in the words of the Creator.

Bless you all!

Michael J.

By: Cortes Family

Cortes Family — Sun, 10 Aug 2008 20:27:11 +0000

Amber,

Your heart is very tender and pure. Let not your heart be troubled and may you and your family find peace at this difficult time. You are never alone.

May God be with you!

Cortes Family

By: daughter of a Rimer

daughter of a Rimer — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 05:25:24 +0000

Amber, Hi cousin…it’s been a long time…was just looking at pictures I have of a trip we made to your house in Tucson and how young we all were. Do you believe that each of us who knows our family history doesn’t wonder if there wasn’t something we could do to change what happened? What if our parents had told the police way back when what our grandfather did to them? Would we now have parents who are normal? What we can do right now is to expose the history and hopefully get some help for the rest of our family who are left. I’ve thought of your family often and wondered how you were doing. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Cyndi

By: Linda

Linda — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 16:22:17 +0000

Amber,

Don’t let anyone lay the guilt upon your head. The parent’s and only the parents are to blame for what happened to Jason. They were his care takers, not you. CPS also has some blame, for they knew what was going on and did nothing about it. May Heavenly Father give you the strength you need in these coming months. I know it’s not going to be easy. God Bless.

Linda

By: Denise

Denise — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 00:02:02 +0000

Amber-In this time of sorrow may you find peace and STRENGTH in the prence of God’s love. Regrets and guilt bring more heartache, and you have been through enough! Love, Denise & Bev

By: Amber - Stan's sister

Amber - Stan's sister — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 19:48:47 +0000

I am guilty. The unpleasant feeling of guilt subsides in me. If I was only there for my neices,nephews, brothers, sister in law, things would have been different. I had left the family ten years ago, The family does know that I wanted the boys but I have failed my family for not being there, I should not be identified as a worthy qualified family member.

The public also needs to understand that my intent is not to hurt my niece Kayla’s tender feelings but to help her and help those who loves her. There needs to be a healing process. There are family members that are all racked with torment, and they have harrow it up to the greatest degree.

Additionally to all of you, many of you have a gall of bitterness and often compare to the pain to fire and brimstone, thus make your own tormentor and your own condemner.

Remember, kindness in our words shapes our character and makes us more like our Heavenly Father, God, Creator.

“No one who has not faced what I faced the night of Jason’s death, will ever know the shame I fell and the sorrow I am currently bearing for not being there for my family.”

By: daughter of a Rimer

daughter of a Rimer — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 19:35:33 +0000

#184 is correct. The Rimer family, at least the branch that belongs to Ernest Dempsey Rimer, has had a problem with abuse (sexual, physical, and mental) going on for at least 5 generations. The family also has a mental issues, mainly with being bi-polar. It has nothing to do with being Mormons since Ernest wasn’t mormon nor was 2 of his children, one of which had a problem with incest. Until the family can come to grips with the fact that this has been passed on for generations, get some intensive therapy done, these type of problems will continue to the next generation. I have been in therapy off and on since my teens. I will probably be on medication for the rest of my life and will probably be in therapy off and on for the rest of my life. I’m fine with that because I do know where my kids are and what they are doing. The help is out there if you’re willing to change the patterns that one, you were born with, and two the ones that you were raised with. We may not be able to change the bi-polar, depression, the ADD disorders that we are genetically predisposed to, but we can get on medication to help. We may not be able to change our past, but we can get help to change those patterns. It’s a choice and it’s alot easier to pretend that nothing is wrong with us and go happily on our way continuing the past. Once you start on the road to change though, the exhilaration of knowing that your children may grow up with some type of “normal” is well worth it. If you are a Rimer, please get counciling if you haven’t already.

By: unknown

unknown — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 18:28:00 +0000

If Stan’s sister had called CPS on him and Colleen, I wonder if she is going to take the boys or maybe the family left her out from speaking up against them.
I saw her at Stan’s home when she flew in 2000 miles for Jason’s funeral. I had observed one day when I was at the Rimer’s house that she was laying her head on her mother’s lap crying. She looked over to me and said she loves her mummy, like a little girl would, she continue to cry and said “it hurts, it hurts, my poor little Jason, I am so sorry, I wish I was here for you.” This really touched me that I was fighting back my own tears. One other time when I was at the Rimer’s house, she was cooking for everyone, even when she was very sick. It was beautiful how she gave special attention to her 19 year old nephew. I heard she works for some kind of Gov’t agency and lives on ten acres.

By: KNEW THEM BEFORE

KNEW THEM BEFORE — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 00:21:10 +0000

Let’s see, I’m not sure where to begin. Stan Rimer Jr. Use to smoke and drink and abuse his first wife Debbie. He never went to church, his home was always messy unless he ordered Debbie to clean it. Just a pattern, In the police statement Stan put the primary care on his wife, yet he wasn’t working, you would think that both of them as a primary care giver. So lets dive in to the Rimer family. Stan was making gestures to his wife and was removed from court. They want Phillip Rimer to have custody of their kids, yet he is known for hitting his wifes, one he even put into the hospital. His ex-wifes were pretty stupid for now pressing charges, I think they were just lucky enough to get out. His third wife, can’t make up her mind as to if Phil broke her leg or if it was an accident.He also hit his daughter and CPS has pitchers to prove it. Everyone gets mad at his daughter Kayla for bring things to light, CPS didn’t do their job right the first time they were called in. Why didn’t Phil get his daughter back after the second CPS call and it went to court, answer: He walked out of counceling and never went back. So it was obviouse he didn’t want his daughter back. His other daughter defends him only because she’s afraid of him, she doesn’t see him, wants nothing to do with him. But she loves her stepmom and I believe the only reason she tried to help was because of her. Kayla and her sister were court ordered to counseling, it didn’t last long because Phil and Elsi were too busy to take the girls to counceling. So if Phil got Stan’s kids how long before he can’t be bothered to take them to counceling. The paper say that these kids go to LDS church. Let see when was the last time Phil went to church, he didn’t raise his family as members of the church. He smokes and drinks. Amber the girl interviewed on channel 8 news. Phil had her living with the family for awhile, but she stole from everyone in the house and tried to blame the housekeeper. Phil knew she was a theif before he agreed to let her move in with him. This family has a cycle of manipulating and abusing people. I’m glad the court was smart enough not to give the kids to Phil, and that they have supervised visitations. I hope that the supervisiors are smart enough to see thru the smooth talking and lies that will go on in the family. If these kids are in a good LDS family who will make sure they get the help they need, these kids can break thru the cycle of abuse that there family has handed them.

By: SAVE THE CHILDREN

SAVE THE CHILDREN — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 00:16:27 +0000

#185, Thank you Linda for pointing out how the emotional manipulation and damage continued directly through the crisis. Parents blaming siblings for the death of their brother. Can you imagine a child living with that guilt? What loving parent wouldn’t take almost any step to protect their child from such a travesty, even if it were true? Would you let your child believe they were responsible for the death of their sibling? Especially when you were responsible? Typical of the Rimer family, if all else fails, blame the children.

Atleast the children have a chance now. If all family visits are supervised, that is a relief. Rumor has it the uncle, is living in the home. I am sure the 18 (or is he 19?) year old boy is living there also and the uncle is presenting himself as a hero. I feel for the young man as he is no longer a minor and does not have the help provided to his siblings. To suddenly, unexpectedly be forced to be self sufficient and live through this mess, must be a nightmare. I am sure between his ability to probably visit his parents, and the influence of his uncle, he does not have the chance he should to create a normal healthy life.

Atleast the children are saved and have a chance. There are no guarantee’s in life; however, the uncle was a guarantee of continued abuse.